A different kind of grief
Typically, when we think of grief we think about death. While there is certainly enough of that kind of news coming in, I would like for you to consider what grief looks like these days...specifically for our young adults.
In the Spring, my seniors lost their beach trip, their prom, and their graduation, just to name a few. This school year, my freshman attended (or virtually attended) a very different school system than the one they anticipated. This years seniors have to re-imagine homecoming, senior nights, and wonder about college admissions in this new era.
These are all losses. Maybe not a physical loss but a loss of what our youth had been looking forward to for five, ten, or possibly even twelve years. We told them our stories of high school, of homecoming, prom, football games, performances, and possibly a party here or there. But, they don’t have that right now. They don’t even know if they will have it. None of us know what high school or college will look like moving forward.
The overall sadness and irritability that you keep hearing about on the news regarding our teens, this is part of that. They have lost the experience that they have been anticipating for years. A change of plan is challenging for some. For others it is disorienting and takes significant support to find motivation to move forward.
Please recognize this loss for the young folks in your life. It is not silly, it is not trivial to them. Keep in mind we all experienced school the traditional way and we can only attempt to understand what they are experiencing. Listen to them and actually hear them. Ask them questions if you are having a hard time understanding. They will remember and it helps to know that you are on their team.
In addition to talking and listening…starting a daily gratitude practice or incorporating positive affirmations could be helpful.
If you, your young person, or family need further support, please call.
Resources:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/can-i-grieve-if-nobody-died-0314165